Monthly Archives: مارس 2011

OPEN TALK on Ch55

I enjoyed a talk on Ch55 OPEN TALK with Ahdeya Ahmed.  We discussed my latest book I Want a Healthy Pregnancy, my nutrition journey, kids health, and a lot more!  Have a look and let me know what you think.

Create Your Own Future

LISTEN LIVE here

Last year, a bunch of us girls formed a book club that revolves around self-improvement books.  One of the books we read and discussed was called Cosmic Energy.  In this book, the author Anne Jirsch teaches you how to harness the pure power of the universe to create the life you deserve.  She shows you, with practical tips, how to use this positive energy to attract love, health, wealth and happiness into your life.

Wouldn’t you love to learn how to attract positive people into your life, how to reveal your life’s purpose, create the perfect home, bring in wealth, and best of all maximize your wellbeing?  I certainly do!  My copy of the book is full of pen marks and highlights, but I want to know more from the author herself! Join me on this life-altering episode.

Anne Jirsch is a London born professional psychic with a large worldwide client base consisting of heads of industry, politicians and celebrities from the world of film, music and sport. She is the author of three books ‘Instant Intuition,’ ‘The Future is Yours,’ and ‘Cosmic Energy.’ She has appeared on numerous radio shows having regular slots on Star FM, BBC Radio Cumbria and BBC Radio Cambridge.

Anne has also appeared in Kuwait morning television and BBC morning news. Anne is a leading world pioneer of Future Life Progression and runs the only training school for FLP in the world. She is the chairman of The Past & Future Life Society.  Paul McKenna said: ‘It is because Anne has spent years researching this area that she has been able to write this wonderful book, which contains within the tools to glimpse your future, so that you can create the one you want.’

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Children of Paradise

CLICK HERE to listen to my radio chat with Dr. Lee Hausner

As a mother, I always worry about whether or not I’m doing enough to prepare my kids for the world.  And almost like an answer to my prayers, I heard about Dr. Lee Hausners who presents (Children of Paradise): Successful Parenting for parents who want to give their children the best of everything yet they are often sadly disappointed with the results as they witness young adults who are poorly motivated, irresponsible, financially demanding and troubled.

Parents are perplexed about how to deal with their success in order to be able to provide the right environment, opportunities and “coaching” so that their children will develop into emotionally healthy, competent, responsible adults. Building Strong Self Esteem; Establishing realistic expectations;Creating competency and confidence; Effective communication; Managing parenting time and energy effectively; Bratproofing; Financial parenting… and much more. I can’t wait!

CLICK HERE to listen to my talk with Dr. Lee Hausner. Monday 21st March 9pm Bahrain (7pm GMT)

Dr. Lee Hausner is a senior managing director of First Foundation Advisors. An internationally recognized clinical psychologist and business consultant, she served as the senior psychologist for the Beverly Hills Unified School District for 17 years in addition to establishing a reputation as a highly regarded keynote speaker and seminar leader. She has been a top rated resource for Young Presidents’ Organization for the past 17 years. A frequent guest on national radio and television, quoted expert in national publication such as the Wall Street Journal, Time, Forbes, Fortune, Town and Country and a contributing writer for Worth magazine, she is the author of the seminal work regarding wealth and the family, “Children of Paradise…Successful Parenting for Prosperous Families.”

CLICK HERE to listen to my talk with Dr. Lee Hausner. Monday 21st March. 9pm Bahrain (7pm GMT)

Can you eat your skincare products?

CLICK HERE to LISTEN to my chat with Annmarie!

The skin absorbs everything you put on it. Unfortunately, today most skin-care products are filled with toxic, chemical-filled, unnatural products. What can we do?

If you want to improve your health by eating better, why not take it a step further and improve what you put ON your body as well as IN it.

After all, who doesn’t want radiant skin, less wrinkles, and no spots? In this episode I speak to Annmarie Gianni who developed a natural skin-care range that you can eat! Your skin will thank you for it.

CLICK HERE to LISTEN to my chat with Annmarie!

Annmarie Gianni is a certified Athletic Trainer, Massage Therapist, Author, and co-host of The Renegade Health Show with an extensive background in natural therapy. She and her husband Kevin host The Renegade Health Show. Each Wednesday during the show, you can see Annmarie “cooking” up something in the kitchen. She and Kevin are the co-authors of The Busy Person’s Fitness Solution.  Annmarie also has her own natural skin-care line.

CLICK HERE to LISTEN to my chat with Annmarie!

My day of silence

*** CLICK HERE to listen to my interview with Anne LeClaire ***

** Scroll down to read my ‘silent journal entries’ **

In the midst of the political and emotional chaos, I have decided to take a day of silence.

Would you be interested in joining me?

Inspired by a book that I read called  Listening Below the Noise (by Anne D. LeClaire), I have been toying with the idea of trying silence.  I have never had the courage to do it.  I read the book last year and was very inspired by it, but I always thought that my life was too hectic for me to be silent.

The book has inspired me from the first chapter.  I loved it all.  It reminded me that when you’re silent you learn a lot about yourself.  You are better at putting things into perspective. Your creativity flows. You become a better listener. And you start noticing the world around you and the sounds you wouldn’t otherwise hear.  I would imagine it’s similar to fasting in a way.

Now, many months after reading the book, I decided to bring the author of that book for an interview on my internet radio show DARE TO BE HEALTHY.  She inspired me so much that just reading the book gave me inner peace. I wanted to speak to her.

*** CLICK HERE to listen to my interview with Anne LeClaire ***


 

 

Anne LeClaire is a former actor, print journalist and radio broadcaster. She is the critically acclaimed, best-selling author of eight novels and the award winning memoir, “LISTENING BELOW THE NOISE: The Transformative Power of Silence,” which was named one of the 50 best spiritual books of 2009. She teaches creative writing workshops throughout the United States and in a number of international venues including the Maui Writers Conference and is a popular lecturer at colleges and universities.  She has been a keynote speaker for The Massachusetts Women’s Bar Association and the Association of American University Women among others and is a Distinguished Fellow of the Ragdale Foundation. Her books have been translated into twenty-four languages and three have been optioned for film. She leads workshops and seminars exploring silence and deep listening and their connection to creativity, health and spirituality.

To my delight, Anne agreed to come on my show! “I want to re-read the book and maybe even try a day of silence before I speak to her” I decided.

And then the political situation got escalated in Bahrain and the whole country went into chaos and lots of emotional instability. It felt very uncomfortable.  The last thing I was thinking of was my radio show; we were thinking about survival.   But the interview date was nearing…

“Who has time to be silent in these circumstances!” I thought. “I wish I could have done this in better times.”

But just two days ago, it dawned on me. Silence was the answer to my many prayers for peace and inner peace. I have been struggling to find focus, and quieting my mind has been very difficult. Maybe this was the answer.

*** CLICK HERE to listen to my interview with Anne LeClaire ***

 

So, instead of waiting for things to ‘get better’ before I try silence, I have decided to let silence help me make things better

I’m not expecting it to be easy. Nor am I expecting it to solve all my problems. I have three kids, a job, and a phone that won’t stop ringing.

But I’m curious as to what silence will teach me.

Silent Journals

I will be keeping my ‘silent journals’ on this page. You can come back here for more information.

I would also like to invite you to join me. 24 hours of silence. No speaking at all for one day only. You can decide for yourself whether you want to also eliminate TV, email, internet, etc. It’s up to you. I haven’t decided on that one yet myself.  I’ll play it by ear.

I would love to hear your feedback on it as well (whether or not you decide to do it). Leave all your feedback in the ‘comments’ section of this post.

Here are the details:

Date: Wednesday 9th or Friday 11th March

Plan: One day of silence

Silent revelations

Entry 1 (8 March 2011)

I’ve only just thought of having a day of silence and I’m already confronted with all kinds of reasons why I can’t do it.

Is it ever convenient to be silent?  The answer, as I’m finding out, is no.  Going silent, especially when so many people depend on you talking, is very difficult. My family thinks Friday is not the best day to be silent because of the social obligations. A dinner on Friday is also making it difficult. But work during the week makes it hard to be silent.  How will I greet Tameem’s teachers in school if I’m silent? Should I flash a card announcing my silence? So many questions that are coming up.  They all make me realise that silence is not as easy as it sounds. It seems it truly is ‘golden’.

As I made ‘silent’ plans, I realised that planning my silent day was now making me more anxious than relaxed.

I have found that once you make a decision to be silent, all the reasons why you shouldn’t will pop in your face.  As LeClaire put it in her book, “Somehow we have become estranged from quiet and have developed not only a low tolerance for it, but an almost outright fear of it.”

But I’m determined to try it.  So, I shuffled things around and have now decided to take a day of silence tomorrow (Wed 9th March). Twenty four hours of no verbal communication.

Will you join me? You can choose any day this week.  If you, let me know what comes up.

Entry 2 (March 9, 2011)

Last night as I was mentally preparing for my silent day, I was anxious because I didn’t know what to expect. At some point, I even felt guilty. How selfish of me to put my whole family through this while I take a whole day ‘off’ in silence.  I found myself apologising a few times to various people saying that I ‘need to do this’, and I had  a hard time confessing to my husband that I will need his help with the kids during this day. How would I feel if he decided to take a day of silence?

Very often, taking time for yourself is viewed as selfish, egotistical, or even rude. Many mothers I see agree that it’s important to have time for yourself but somehow they never get around to doing it because they put everybody else first. Was I feeling guilty for spending time with my silent self?

I ended up going to bed at 8pm, from sheer exhaustion after a turbulent and emotional two weeks. I had dreams of sitting on the beach and watching the waves, some of which were violent.

The morning started on a good note.  “Not bad,” I thought. “I can do this”. The first two people I see are my two older kids (9 and 7). They had forgotten that  I will be silent and they gave me funny looks when I just hugged them and smiled. When it dawned on them that I was being ‘silent’, they had great fun asking me questions and seeing the creative sign language I had to come up with. Let’s just say they had a lot of giggles courtesy of moi. They even tried to ‘be silent like mama’ for about 5 minutes in the car until they discovered that’s boring.

When I got home, I woke up my 2yr old, silently. He didn’t notice at first but after a few attempts to get my attention, he stuck his face into mine and called me repeatedly, waiting to see the reaction. I don’t know if he understood, but he eventually accepted it better than any adult.

As my silent day unfolded, I found my brain more serene. As I see it, in my brain there are 2 sections: one for my thoughts and one for what I will say. Today I got to rest 50%. I realised all the things that I would have said but didn’t. Selma didn’t make her bed in the morning, Gracy didn’t fix the bird cage, Tameem forgot his sweater at school… all these would have required commands on my part, but I pulled them back. Just for today, it doesn’t really matter if things are not perfect. I could get used to this.

So far (and I’m not an expert), being silent feels like spending time with myself. I got flashbacks from the day I gave birth to my first child with all the emotions involved. I wonder why. Maybe it’s because that’s the day that ‘being alone’ ended for me.

Being silent feels like being removed from the world and just acting as a spectator. You read people’s body language and facial expressions better, you notice background noises (our new parrot is making that interesting), and LISTEN to others because you’re not busy thinking of you will say next.

As LeClaire puts it in her book, “Nothing has changed the nature of man so much as the loss of silence”.

Will keep you posted as the day unfolds.

Entry #3 (March 9, 2011)

As the day unfolded I found myself dipping into a quiet blissful place (especially with the kids in school). My thoughts were clear and I could finally hear myself think!

But when the kids came home for lunch, I struggled.  Again, they forgot I was silent and Laith kept asking me open-ended questions that required more than a yes/no answer! But I had the hardest time with 2yr old Tameem because he was trying very hard to get my attention.

Kids aside, sounds around me are starting to feel disturbing. I took Laith to football practice and realised (for the first time) how noisy it is. Kids shouting, cars driving in and out, other parents chatting, phones ringing.  In the past, these were normal background noises. I don’t know why today they bothered me.

I’m also feeling very conscious of what others might think of my silence. I wore my sunglasses at football practice to shield myself from possible eye contact that might warrant conversation. But why did I feel conscious about telling them I was silent? It would be awkward for them I guess, so I didn’t want to risk it.  At some point I also felt guilty for inconveniencing my kids and my family by not talking.

During silence, my dreams and daydreams are different. The common theme in my dreams seems to be loss of control and the need to fight for my life, my rights, etc. Is that what is lurking in my subconscious?

If I had to explain how I feel, I would say I feel invisible, as if I were a spectator on my own life.  for example, over lunch, the conversation did not include me.  Selma talked about the demonstrations outside her school. I said nothing. I tried to read her face and body language for signs of fear or distress. I didn’t find any.

Maybe the most uncomfortable thing I’m feeling while being silent is the loss of control. I knew I had a problem letting go but I didn’t realise how big it was until now.  I can no longer fix things. And as many mothers would agree, we need to fix things! I’m finding it hard to let go of control. To let someone else do it cuz I’m not ‘here’ today.  It feels like leaving home but watching them through a live camera.

Let it go, Alia!  Just let go!

This reminds of what I read in LeClaire’s book today:

When I speak of my silent days, women often say, “I could never do that.” I understand Most of us are ‘fixers.’ One aspect of withdrawing from speech is that we have to cede influence over others. To be speechless is to relinquish control, to know that there is nothing we can do, including expressing empathy in the face of another’s distress.  At heart, silence is an exercise in surrender.

 

BIGGEST MYTHS IN KIDS NUTRITION, EXPOSED!

Did you know that kids who eat nutritious food have higher IQs, perform better in school, and get into less trouble with their friends?  Also, kids who have a balanced diet get sick less often, they have stable energy levels that last them through the day, behave better in public, and enjoy a bunch of health signs such as better digestion and brighter skin.

Children’s diets today don’t only affect them in the short-run, but the health effects last throughout life.  

BUT parents and caretakers are often confused as to what is good nutrition for their children.  They receive mixed messages from the people around them and the media and end up being unsure of what to do.

Based on her book, I Want Healthy Kids, Alia Almoayed puts the spotlight on kids health and busts some nutrition myths around the topic.  Learn how to select the health information that really counts and start improving your child’s health immediately. How to make fussy eaters eat, how to boost learning, how to make healthy food appealing, and much more!

Join me on this eye-opening talk! I’m so excited! Hope to see you there.

Workshop information

Date: Thursday 10th March 2011

Time: 8:15 – 10:15am (please be on time)

Venue: British School of Bahrain (Cafeteria), Hamala

#UniteBH – Amazing Video

One of the most amazing videos created for the love of Bahrain.

The video speaks for itself. Watch and let me know what you think.